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Have you considered it may be time for a HARD RESET in life?

Are you familiar with the term ‘HARD RESET’? “A hard reset, also known as a factory reset or master reset, is the restoration of a device to the state it was in when it left the factory. In other words, a “hard reset” is when you hold down a power button, click on an option to wipe out all of your data, or perform some other function (sometimes involving a paper clip) that returns the device back to the state it was in when it was brand new.” (SOURCE: Tech Target & Inc dot com)

I’m not saying to wipe out your existence or wipe out your memories and the things that have shaped you.

Hard Reset Graphic with laptop and cell phone

I’m saying there are times when life has thrown you some curve balls and challenges that have CHANGED your persona but NOT for the better. I’m saying break ups, divorce, grief, loss, toxic environments, etc can harden us.
A hard reset will help you get UNSTUCK. Make sense?

For instance, I have a woman in mind right now. She is not who she was before she got married then divorced. In fact, she is almost unrecognizable. The devastation of her “shattered dreams” including other pain and grief has turned her from a beautiful, outgoing, and fashionable woman to now a broken, closed off, untrusting woman who tries to hide in plain sight. Life has dealt her hard balls that she has yet to recover from.

My point is, like computers and cell phones, some times we need to hit the HARD RESET button in our lives in order to return to a ‘brand new’ state of mind.
You say that it is impossible to hit hard reset, I say
For with God NOTHING will be impossible.” Luke 1:37

Some times we need to do a hard reset of our inner circles, toxic environment, stressful lifestyles or of our own pessimistic mindsets.


Yesterday I posted some self-care ideas. Your hard reset begins with giving yourself some TIME AWAY and getting back to SELF-CARE.

A hard reset is not easy but is POSSIBLE and NECESSARY.


JUST DO IT! HIT THAT HARD RESET IN YOUR LIFE TO FEEL BRAND NEW AGAIN!

Check this out https://youtu.be/VU-Owh_GnSA

Who Else Needs A Hard Reset In Life?

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Self-Care: 15 Ways To Take Better Care of Yourself

Self-Care is Vital

Self-care is more than “treating yourself.” It is showing yourself some love and recognizing that you need to take care of YOURSELF. According to Life Hacker, Self-care helps prevent burnout, reduces negative psychological and physical effects of stress and helps you refocus on what is true and important.

Are you feeling overwhelmed at work or stressed about the overdue tasks piling up at home? Well, that may be a sign that it is time for you to indulge in a big dose of self-care. Self-care is not a buzzword or a movement, it is vital to your mental and physical well-being.

Definition of Self-Care

Self-care is defined as,” the practice of taking action to preserve one’s own health or the practice of taking an active role in protecting one’s own well-being and happiness, in particular during periods of stress.” (Source: Dictionary.com)

BENEFITS of practicing self-care

  • Reduces negative effects of stress
  • Better productivity
  • Enhances self-esteem
  • Better physical health
  • Improves quality of life
  • Improves resistance to disease
  • Helps you refocus

While there are many benefits to self-care, it is one of the first things to be overlooked or “put on the back-burner” when life becomes busy. There is a long comprehensive list of self-care ideas, but many of those ideas are tips that only take a few minutes.

SELF-CARE IDEAS

Here are just a few self-care ideas for you to incorporate into your busy life:

  1. Spend time outdoors
  2. Do mindfulness breathing exercises
  3. Listen to music that makes you smile
  4. Do journal writing or make a gratitude list
  5. Sip on hot herbal tea
  6. Watch funny animal videos
  7. Disconnect from social media for the day
  8. Do a crossword puzzle or mindless coloring
  9. Read the bible or positive affirmations
  10. Take a hot bubble bath

There may not be a lot of time, but MAKE TIME. It doesn’t have to cost money to take a few moments out to show yourself some love or to give yourself a mental health break. The goal is to exercise self-care before you reach the level of BURNOUT, if possible.

It is so important to maintain a healthy relationship with yourself. There are times when we are so busy caring for the needs of others, that we find ourselves depleted. The fact is, if you gives others EVERYTHING you have, and then you have nothing left to give yourself or anyone else. Be kind to yourself.

TAKE ACTION

Don’t wait until the perfect time on the perfect day. Get started right away. Which self-care ideas are you going to put into action right away?


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Angela Bassett slayed the stage on Black Girls Rock!!! 9/8/19

Angela Bassett brought that FIRE on the Black Girls Rock stage tonight. I caught most of it and had to share what I captured. This glimpse is to give you a highlight of how she empowered SISTAS all over the world.

A few highlights…

Now is not the time to stay silent. Find your purpose. Pursue it relentlessly, passionately, and loudly. Be persistent and WIN! I Love you We are all black girls who rock!

When you’re told you are not good enough…you tell them I am more than good enough.

This is me being resolute and standing firmly in my truth.

You tell them you are the descendant of royalty…. A QUEEN!

Each one, teach one. #blackgirlsrock #angelabassett #destinyinspiredconsulting #BET #reginaking

Our voices matter!

If God be for you, WHO can be against you?! NO ONE

Angela Bassett, YOU ROCK!

#ProudBlackWoman #ProudBlackMomma #BlackGirlswhoBlog #MelaninBlogger

Come thru with that black excellence! Way to empower us and not tear us down! Yaaassss

CLICK HERE FOR Angela Bassett’s Speech 9/8/19

If you missed tonight’s show, go to BET.com to check out when there will be a replay. Niecey Nash did a phenomenal job hosting tonight’s show! Melanin was poppin tonight. Black Girls Rock!

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Change Your Perspective

Sometimes you just need to change the way you look at a a situation.

This concept of changing MY perspective still is not the easiest thing to do.

Sometimes the message is short and sweet…

CHANGE the direction you are looking at a situation with simple, yet effective, adjustments, like:

1) Focus on the positive

2) Look at the big picture

3) Remember trouble doesn’t last always.

4) Focus on any lessons learned and wisdom gained.

5) Until your situation is worked out, get busy helping someone else in need.

Your perspective will not change overnight, however, applaud yourself for every attempt you make to CHANGE for the better.

Instead of waiting for change, BE THE CHANGE.

Change YOUR Perspective

Is there a situation at home, work, church etc. where you need a shift in the way you look at things?

One more time

CHANGE YOUR PERSPECTIVE

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Hold up!! The 100sUnit is NOT Exactly What They Claim…

As a woman who has been an active member of the Hundreds Unit (100sUnit) for nearly one year, I can say the group is truly MUCH MORE than they claim. I have a firsthand testimony about 100sUnit. Oh yaaasss hunty!!! I got some stuff to say boo boo.

Who Is The Hundreds Unit?

According to the 100sunit.com website, the group was designed to “bring women together through fitness and dance.” The unit, co-founded by, Venetia James and Phyllis Cook, emphasize how 100sUnit’s mission is to “incorporate every woman.”

In the KCRA article, “How 100 amateur dancers took center court at Sacramento Kings game,” it’s noted with special emphasis on how the “health and fitness group is inspiring women to break stereotypes and build confidence, with a little help from the Sacramento Kings.” 

“health and fitness group is inspiring women to break stereotypes and build confidence, with a little help from the Sacramento Kings.”

In the strong and empowering words of Venetia, “Do Not Give Up!”

I did not realize how much I needed to be reminded not to give up. Being a person who organically inspires others, especially women and mothers, 100sUnit gave me what I needed. Their theme is Breaking – Building – Believing; Breaking through barriers, building women, and believing in the power of unity while meeting wellness goals.

While I knew the dance group was about women’s wellness and empowerment, I had NO idea that the ladies of 100sUnit would allow me to create such a strong bond and sisterhood with so many.

My First Day of 100sUnit

I remember the first day I walked into the Fit Republic in Natomas, California where the 100sUnit meets for conditioning with fitness trainer Duante Moore and then upstairs to our private practice room to learn our dance choreography. It was in that moment, nearly a year ago, when all sorts of insecurities arose that had been lying dormant. I remember looking in the mirror wondering what had I become? I remember doing the warmup dance moves being so winded, out of breath, and just so out of shape. Facing the mirror while doing the simple dance moves forced me to take a good look at myself. Wow. It was more than the physical fitness ability to do the moves, I was experiencing something deeply emotional. With every huff and puff, I would ask myself how did I allow myself to gain 40+ pounds in under two years. As a person who has dance background, I looked in the mirror feeling defeated. Where is dancer Trice? I didn’t see her in the mirror. However, I looked around me and saw women of all sizes, races, ages (over the age 20), and diverse cultures who were pushing beyond their own feelings of defeat. These ladies were supportive and encouraging so it kept me pushing.

Eventually, after fighting the “I want to quit” mindset, I kept returning to the practices because I simply enjoyed the ladies and I was noticing my progress. Not to mention my momma and sister wouldn’t let me miss practices. Ughhh. Lol

Geez…sometimes we are our own worst critic but we gotta get out our own way. Point Blank PERIOD!!

Depression?

Instead of focusing on learning the dance moves, I found myself wondering how I had allowed life’s rough (unfair) circumstances to kick me into a depression. My sister and mom were instrumental in having me join the 100sUnit; it was an intervention. They knew I needed a positive outlet to focus on outside of my children and everything I had dealt with in the past two years. I can truly say that the ladies of 100sUnit, my family, and of course my relationship with the Lord Jesus Christ, are who kept me from falling into a deep depression. Being apart of the unit introduced me to a support group of ladies from all walks of life. No matter what we experienced in our lives outside of the dance room, when we come together it is all about sisterhood, support, networking, and encouraging one another to push beyond the norm to reach our wellness goals.

Fun Fact About Venetia

Just to show how life connects and reconnects people when you least expect it. Walking into those doors for my first 100sUnit practice, I was familiar with many of the ladies, particularly Venetia. Many many years ago, I met her in dance classes at California State University, Sacramento in dance with the amazing dance professor, Dr. Linda Goodrich. My favorite memory is when a year or so after I met her, Venetia came to substitute teach for Dr. Goodrich. Let me tell you that Venetia was NINE months pregnant and due to give birth within one week yet there she was teaching the HELL out of that Afro Caribbean college dance class. Can I tell you that we were just doing a “not so light” techniques from the famous dancer and choreographer, Katherine Dunham. Well, I just remember Venetia dancing across the floor with such graceful, fluid, and perfect technique without missing a beat. So, it is safe to say she was inspiring me long before 100sUnit was birthed.

Quitting IS NOT an option!

Anyone who has been apart of the 100sUnit for one unit or several different units knows you will continuously hear one of our founders or leadership say, “Do Not Give Up!” Recently at practice, Venetia said,” Yes, I know learning different styles of dance can be hard, but don’t give up on us and don’t give up on yourself either.”

Just so you know, this was supposed to be a quick reflection on my experience on this most recent Bohemian Rebel dance unit where our dances were influenced by various African and Jamaican culture dance particularly in honor of Black History Month. #ProudBlackWoman  Welp it looks like I was trying to write a novel. Oops… My bad.

In conclusion, I was thinking about 100sUnit and my amazing 100sUnit sisters and I HAD to write about how the group is soooooo much more than a women’s empowerment group who dances. Oh no boo boo. They (WE) are soooo much more. I LOVE 100sUnit and all that it represents. I would be remiss if I did not express how our leadership emphasizes doing things in excellence. What does that mean? That each unit is practicing approximately six weeks to prepare to perform at a major event. So, during those weeks we come together and work hard to bring a polished product. Whenever excellence is not given to us in return, our leadership makes sure to address it with the strong message that we will never lower our expectations to accept less than God’s very best.

So, you have a glimpse of my testimony. For more about 100sUnit, go to http://www.100sunit.com to see what we are up to in the coming months in Sacramento, California and beyond.

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Building walls??

When I think of the walls that surround me, I feel overwhelmingly anxious. Walls can be the very think you feel is blocking you or standing in the way of you reaching your goals.

What walls? Well, my unfulfilling job, debt (mainly school loans…OUCH), mediocre salary, job title/classification, fear, qualifications, etc.

I realized those “walls” didn’t have to be a bad thing and how I looked at those “walls” is what would make the difference. SHIFT YOUR PERSPECTIVE!

For instance, what if I started looking at debt as something I’m assigned to concur in this life, so I can show other people how to do the same thing. Ya know like when you take a Dave Ramsey Financial Literacy class, isn’t it more relatable to learn from someone who was ‘in your shoes’ or worse off in debt before they applied financial literacy principles and now they are debt-free?!!

I’m just saying. I realized I was my own wall. Get out your own way!

So, once I started realizing that walls didn’t have to CONFINE. Walls are meant to be climbed, jumped, painted, or torn down BUT NOT CONFINE.

What “walls” have you allowed to confine you?

Start today by SHIFTING YOUR PERSPECTIVE for the better.

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Thanks for joining the blog for my ‘Destiny Inspired’ Journey. Sooooo, basically I’m inviting you to read my online journal. My goal is to share information that is inspirational, educational, unintentionally controversial, and spiritual. Inevitably I will chat about faith, frustrations, family, my daughters, community, woman stuff, lovin’ the skin I’m in, etc. Let me not forget a few HOT TOPICS regarding workplace and social justice, and the realization of there being purpose in my past pain which inspired my passions…. STAY TUNED