Let’s be honest. Perfectionism is a thing, and it sucks! Of course, I know it can depend on your perspective.
We need to loosen the rules a bit and accept that being imperfectly perfect is just as good.
To anyone who feels like they are chasing perfection, I would tell you that it doesn’t exist. And it’s not worth the chase.
Perfectionism is the voice that tells you not to take chances, to play it safe, and not to dream big. It’s the voice that says, ‘There’s no room for failure here.’ That voice is wrong. Let me say that ONE MO’ TIME – that voice is wrong!
Perfectionism has never been anything other than a dream thief robbing you of happiness and life. You spend more time getting ready to take action than actually moving the needle on your goals.
Everything may take longer than you expect — be optimistic.
Whether you are writing a blog post or building your dream business, there will always be room for failure. If you want to achieve something great, you must keep pushing yourself. Stop chasing perfectionism.
Steps to Help You Kick Into Action
Write a list of your goals that you don’t feel you can reach in a month or a year, then strive to achieve them. (Destiny Inspired Journal on Amazon.com)
Set goals that are just out of reach, and you will push yourself to be better than you thought possible.
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You Don’t Need a Title to Be a Leader | The Essence of Leadership
I feel like I should repeat the title one more time, but I won’t. It surprises me every time I discover someone who will not exercise leadership or their voice because they don’t have a particular title. Ok, so when I started writing this post, I was only talking about the titles and leadership ability, but as I started going on, I began meshing into the essence of leadership and decided to keep the topics combined. That’s the nice thing about having my own blog and my own rules. ha ha ha
If you don’t know me personally or follow my blogs and social media pages, you may be wondering what inspired me to write on this topic. I don’t recall exactly when I became so intrigued in the topic of leadership, but it has been at least a decade since I started researching and leisurely reading more ion the topic. Actually, I have had an interest in the topic for 10 or more years, but I think the more I interacted with horrible leaders, the more I began to advocate against bad leadership. In the near future, I will once again pursue a doctorate level degree in education with an emphasis in organizational leadership. You probably didn’t want to know that, but oh wella.
Let me switch gears to say, it pays to have an older sister who is a “professional” thrifter. My sister, Shell, has an eye for quality discounted items at the thrift store. I enjoy the deep discounts at thrift stores, but I don’t have the patience to quickly spot the best bargain. Two years ago, Shell found a 99 cent book that ended up being a fantastic addition to my professional development/leadership book collection. OOPSIE, I should probably mention that the book was intended for my mom; however, I’ve been “borrowing” it for the entire two years. Ultimately, I decided I would have better use for the book. The book, entitled, “You Don’t Need a Title to Be a Leader” by Mark Sanborn, enhanced my knowledge base on the subject of leadership development. Without sharing too many details, this written resource has become one of my favorites.
Mark Sanborn is a “powerful storyteller” who articulates key leadership principles of “titled and untitled leaders.” Effective leaders can shape lives and careers.
What Leadership is or is not
Leadership is empathy.
Leadership is a behavior, not a position.
Leadership is influence, not authority.
Leadership is inspiring others to become better.
Leadership is about producing more leaders.
Leadership is NOT micromanaging.
Leadership is NOT about agreeing in private, but silent in public.
Leadership is advocating for what’s right in spite of opposition.
Leadership AIN’T for everybody.
Leadership is about taking responsibility, not making excuses.
Want to become a GREAT leader? Here are fifteen leadership qualities that can make you a good leader.
Honesty and integrity
Commitment and Passion
Delegation and Empowerment
Creativity and Innovation
Vision and Purpose
What Role Does Leadership Play During Crisis?
Globally, we find ourselves experiencing considerable uncertainty due to the spread of the coronavirus (COVID-19) pandemic; is like a bad dream that went from bad to worse in 1.3 seconds. This infectious virus has caused widespread impact on our personal and professional lives. Schools, churches, grocery shopping, large gatherings, and the workplace is not what we used to know two months ago. It’s crazy how one minute my sisters and I were finalizing plans and invites for our mom’s 70th birthday party and then the Center for Disease Control issued guidelines stating we could not gather with any more than 10 people so those plans eventually cancel.
Our school district (Elk Grove School District) led the efforts on school shutdowns. Initially, some community members thought our district overreacted, but soon other districts followed suit. So, Elk Grove district was a leader in protecting the children in our community. As a result, I have a preschooler and high school sophomore who are not in school for the remainder of the school year. Correction, as of yesterday, my sophomore has started distance learning through her school and my preschooler is now receiving weekly curriculum to help keep them academically on task. How does this relate to leadership? Thanks for asking. Without going too far off the topic, it is critical to shed light on the importance of leadership during the time of crisis. Effective leadership is necessary from our Federal and local government, school superintendent, in the workplace and through our community leaders. Actually, quality leadership is necessary within the home with parents but that is a different topic for another day.
Essence of Leadership
I absolutely love an old 2006 video clip of General Colin Powell responding to a question about leadership. He says, “it [leadership] comes down to creating trust. General Powell mentioned how leaders should have “a clear mission statement, offer selfless service, prepare their “followers” and provide resources for those they placed in positions. If you have LESS THAN THREE MINUTES, then check out what General Powell says for yourself. Click HERE to see the brief video.
Honestly, I could chat about leadership and related topics for a long time. I have deep admiration and appreciation for quality leaders. On the flip side, I am DEEPLY annoyed when I see those in leadership who do not have a single key characteristic as a leader should. When I see leaders who lack empathy, have limited communication with those who they “lead” and do not have an advocating bone in their body, it annoys me. It really bothers me when I see amazing, wise and thoughtful change agents who smother their voice or their skill-set because they don’t possess certain credentials or a “leadership title.” No way.
Is that you? Are you one of the individuals who has so much to offer, yet you won’t let your voice be heard because you aren’t in an executive leadership position? If the person I described is you, PLEASE don’t wait for someone to LEAD you to SPEAK UP for yourself. Someone is waiting on you to step into your purpose. Leadership is not only in skill-set workplace or within an organization. You can lead your community, be a leader for your church, or exercise healthy selfless leadership within your family or home. It’s not always comfortable to USE YOUR VOICE and ADVOCATE for yourself, but the time is now.
One last thing. Earlier today, I shared Governor Gavin Newsom’s daily COVID-19 briefing with a note that said, ” I AM SO PROUD TO BE A CALIFORNIA GIRL WHO IS REPRESENTED BY THE AMAZING LEADERSHIP OF GOVERNOR GAVIN NEWSOM!!!! (yes I used all those caps) Thank you, Governor Newsom, for focusing on health, safety, and [the] well-being of 40 million Californians. Thank you for creating an AMAZING bipartisan advisory panel to effectively and strategically address the ‘COVID-19″ induced recession.’ Thank you to our OUTSTANDING Governor for his empathy, emotional intelligence, sound guidance and moral obligation to lead our state. Governor Newsom is a change agent. California is BLESSED to have you. PERIODT (not a typo). Thank you for moving beyond politics. Thank you for your LEADERSHIP.”
It is just nice to know California has a leader who genuinely cares about the people he serves and is doing so much to address the needs of we the people. I couldn’t write an entire thing about leadership and leave Governor Newsom’s leadership out. While I’m at it, I also think Governor Andrew Cuomo of New York is a wonderful leader and will not rest until there is a solution to the devastation that is a result of the coronavirus. I don’t have to be from New York to be grateful for Governor Cuomo’s leadership.
Whether you are a leader with a title or a leader without a title, please let your voice be heard. Maybe you are a union leader, a church leader, a community advocate or a student without a title who is passionate about positive change. Please LET YOUR VOICE BE HEARD!
Be a Leader That People Follow!
Check out this visual presentation of leadership. CLICK HERE
What are YOUR thoughts on leadership? Is there anything YOU would add to the list of leadership characteristics? What do you think about General Powell’s thoughts on leadership?
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Why not add Maya Angelou Quotes as a quick pick-me-up? Are you, too, feeling a bit overwhelmed or creatively stifled by the 24/7 discussions regarding this coronavirus outbreak (COVID-19)? Well, you’re NOT ALONE. Of course, I’m interested in the latest developments, data, press conferences, state and federal guidelines, etc. I’m simply feeling information overload. Gee whizz!
I had to stop myself from reading tons of articles and watching every press conference about this virus. It was time to fill my cup with something to ignite my creative fire.
Keep It Fresh
As a blogger who LOVES to write content, lately I’ve struggled with WHAT TO POST. Prior to all this outbreak stuff, I had pre-scheduled (automated) blogs and social media posts with interesting and funny write ups but now I decided to delay the postings. Why? My reason for delaying the posts are to be sure I’m being sensitive to those directly impacted by the outbreak in any way.
When I have writer’s block or need added substance for a writing project, I go to YouTube or Google to search topics like inspirational leadership, journaling, self-care, mindset habits or similar keywords. Several videos gave me a little inspiration, but something I saw reminded me of a Maya Angelou quote that has consistently encouraged me over the years. The thought of this ONE particular quote is the leading inspiration behind THIS post. It was difficult to post a few Maya quotes. She left us with so much of her profound wisdom. So, I just wanted to share a few of my favorites to help fulfill your inspirational needs.
Maya Angelou’s Inspirational Quotes
“You can’t use up creativity. The more you use, the more you have.”
“Nothing will work unless you do.’
“Try to be a rainbow in someone’s cloud.”
“I’ve learned that people will forget what you said, people will forget what you did, but people will never forget HOW you made them feel.”
“If you don’t like something, change it. If you can’t change it, change your attitude.”
“I’m a woman phenomenally. Phenomenal woman, that’s me.”
“There is no greater agony than bearing an untold story inside you.”
“I’ve learned that whenever I decide something with an open heart, I usually make the right decision.”
“Never make someone a priority when all you are to them is an option.”
“Success is liking yourself, liking what you do, and liking how you do it.”
We all need to be mindful of what is going on in our world to stay informed and healthy. In the midst of challenging times, let’s inspire one another to keep a positive mindset. Hopefully, these Maya Angelou quotes added a rainbow to your cloud. Do you have a favorite Maya Angelou quote?
Did you have the opportunity to check out Samantha Wall Laidler from Unlimited Fashions this morning on Good Day Sacramento? Samantha, along with her Unlimited Fashions’ models were featured on an early morning segment.
Samantha is owner and chief executive officer of Unlimited Fashions. Her motto is to “walk by faith and not by sight.” I’m excited that my daughter, Tyra Simone, has been given multiple opportunities to model the latest Unlimited Fashions.
For more on Samantha and all her upcoming events, please check her out on Facebook under Samantha Wall Laidler.
CLICK HERE to check out this morning’s Good Day Sacramento segment on their website or CLICK HERE for the same episode on Good Day Sacramento’s YouTube page.
These ladies went from modeling this past weekend in Sacramento Fashion Week’s ‘Fashion in the City’ runway show this past Saturday to having a LIVE television appearance early this morning at the KOVR CBS 13 Studio where Good Day Sacramento is located.
Enjoy a few of the pictures from today’s live show. By the way, all the outfits you see in these pictures are available for purchase through Samantha Wall Laidler.
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If you didn’t see my highlights from Sacramento Fashion Week’s show on Saturday, February 22, 2020, then check it out HERE.
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Random Acts of Kindness Day
Did you know that, in addition to being my nephew Elijah’s birthday, February 17, is National Random Acts of Kindness Day?!
A random act of kindness (RAoK) is a selfless act of kindness towards someone else.
It’s just nice to be nice. It’s time to take action and DO random acts of kindness
“Make the world a better place by bringing a smile to someone’s face.”
Random Acts of Kindness Ideas
Donate toys and books
Treat someone to coffee or tea
Support someone’s growing business
Send flowers just because
Support a fundraiser
Call someone instead of texting
Volunteer to help an organization
Volunteer at an animal shelter
Smile at everyone you encounter
Bake cookies for your neighbor
Leave a generous tip at a restaurant
Offer to babysit for a parent who “needs a break”
Give a coworker an encouraging note or note of appreciation
Find a way to assist those in assisted living
Provide a meal or food gift card to a homeless person
Leave extra change in the vending machine
It is clear that life gets busy and we are caught up in the hustle and bustle of our own lives; however, a simple kind gesture can make a huge impact on someone else.
Reasons kindness can make you healthier
According to inc.com, the five top reasons kindness can benefit you is, as follows:
Kindness fuels energy and esteem;
Kindness makes you happier;
Kindness is good for your heart;
Kindness helps you live longer;
Kindness plays a role in decreasing anxiety, stress, depression, etc.
BONUS: Kindness releases feel-good hormones.
Kindness is contagious
Your kind gesture will inspire someone else to do the same thing. A simple gesture can go a long way.
I talk a lot about self-care throughout my blog which you can refer to at another time, but in honor of the National Random Act of Kindness Day (February 17, 2020), it is important to highlight simple ideas for selfless acts for someone else.
How will you incorporate acts of kindness?
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If someone finds you on Instagram, your profile is the first thing they notice.
Sometimes the details of your bio/profile will determine if they #follow or are interested to learn more about your services.
Your Instagram bio/profile should include the following:
✅ Opt to switch to a business profile ✅ Use a professional profile picture or logo ✅ Add your business name ✅ Select a simple username ✅ List what you do (speaker, strategist, consultant, etc.) ✅ Include a compelling call to action (Book Now or Call Today) ✅ Include a URL or website link to link your audience to your website
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